Connections.

A few days back I met a french  on the train. I was obviously trying to attract the attention of a lady some attention, and to my surprise a french guy came up to compliment my moves.

I showed him a little more in my bag of tricks and we started talking. After a firm handshake we went out of the train and had a chat. In the next min, an Indian family came up to me hoping to see more of what I had because they took notice in the train. Was more than glad to share a few more tricks up my sleeves.

After they left, the french and I had a long talk before we decided to take it to Starbucks. Its amazing how I could even keep up with the conversation.

He was a french philosophy writer who’s in his 60s. Although he didn’t speak well, he could express his thoughts very clearly and I could see the wheels turning in his head.

We talked about life. We talked about religion. Above all, we actually talked about the media.

He speaks of  “words” as creations to help men. But somewhere in time, “words” became independent and men begin to be slaves of these words. That advertisers in particular are using words to manipulate and indirectly influencing our way of lives.

Do you know why are men suffering? Because they have the wrong ideas.

When was the last time you took a walk in the park alone. Without your gadgets, without the music.

When was the last time you could put away your computer and let the thoughts flow in your mind.

When was the last time you wrote.

When was the lasst time you create.

The other day, Miss Kwa mentioned about the two states we can be in while using the media. Active & Passive.

When we in the movies, we’re probably in the passive state of mind. When we are on the net, its definitely active when we are clicking on everywhere.

Soon enough, everything else would grow towards the interactive side. Soon enough, we’d never have a mind of our own. Soon enough, there won’t be a search for greatness and enlightenment.

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Pat Law

I probably learnt the most from today’s talk by Pat compared to any other lectures I had.

No kidding.

There was definitely a whole lot of information fed to us. I have to admit that I didn’t get them all. Hopefully I’d figure out somehow.

She arrived a little late. But no one really complained. Probably because everyone else were admiring how fashionable she was and how different she looked compared to what we are used to look at in the theater. She sounded pretty nice too.

Enough about how she presented herself. Her slides were great too. There was a structure to it. Its simple, focus, and to the point. Probably one thing everyone needs to work on.

If you ask me what’s the talk about, I can’t really give a definite answer. Maybe it was about using social media. Maybe its about branding, advertising, public relations. Or maybe its everyone of those and none of those.

Basically I learnt how huge the net really is. And that knowledge isn’t really wealth, only if you learnt how to harness it. The Web is a huge library of information. And it’s no longer about reading as much as you can, but to be able to filter through these clutter to find what’s relevant to You.

I saw the different sites that analyze your online presence, (socialmention.com) and many more on checking your popularity (http://www.popuri.us/) or stalking a friend (twitalyzer.com) and so on.

There were so much information within one single talk. And I definitely got quite a bit out of it. Now its up to me to practice what I learnt, or to let these precious knowledge go into slumber…

Thanks, PatLaw.

Conformity Experiment

Do you think of yourself as a conformist or a non-conformist? If you are like most people, you probably believe that you are non-conformist enough to stand up to a group when you know you are right, but conformist enough to blend in with the rest of your peers.

I used to be a good kid in school. I think I still am.

I’d bother to wake up in the morning, and to head home straight after school. My parents brought me up well. (You may disagree, but I don’t care.) They may not have been the best educators, but at least they taught me the basic values and beliefs. To share, to care, to be on time. LOL.

In psychological terms, conformity refers to an individual’s tendency to follow the unspoken rules or behaviors of the social group to which he or she belongs.

But eventually, I don’t pay as much attention to punctuality as before. Why? Because everyone else started to be late. And no one really reprimanded them. Its almost like a loop hole in the education system. It is upsetting when people don’t bother about being on time. It can reflect so much about a person, and yet, many young adults like myself just don’t get it.

Researchers have long been interested in the degree to which people follow or rebel against social norms. During the 1950s, psychologist Solomon Asch conducted a series of experiments designed to demonstrate the powers of conformity in groups.

When I first read about the conformity experiment, I could relate to it pretty well. I’d expect myself to be able to stand on my own amongst the crowd, at the same time, I’m probably the type who’d just conform to the majority.

In Asch’s experiments, students were told that they were participating in a ‘vision test.’ Unbeknownst to the subject, the other participants in the experiment were all confederates, or assistants of the experimenter. At first, the confederates answered the questions correctly, but eventually began providing incorrect answers.

It explains quite a bit about the situation that we’re seeing in classes.

These results suggest that conformity can be influence both by a need to fit in and a belief that other people are smarter or better informed. Given the level of conformity seen in Asch’s experiments, conformity can be even stronger in real-life situations where stimuli are more ambiguous or more difficult to judge.

Conclusion? If you think you’re smart enough to stand for yourself in a group, don’t be late.

http://psychology.about.com/od/classicpsychologystudies/p/conformity.htm

The New Dating Theory

I’ve been hearing a lot from desperate friends who are looking for significant partners. Both males & females alike. Myself included.

Its a problem for many which, in turn made “dating guides for men” one of the best sellers. Books like “The Game” classifies these hungry lovebirds as AFC – Average Frustrated Chumps. Man who don’t get what women wants, and get frustrated every time they see a beautiful lady.

Here’s what I think.

Looking for a lover, is very much like looking for a job.

Do you know what that means?

How many people are really happy with their jobs? Not many.

And how many people really get what they want? Not many.

Maybe you like to sing or you enjoy dancing. What about taking care of animals? Or perhaps you are like me, someone who’s into arts. What are the chances of you doing what you want?

Here’s why I think people don’t get their jobs.

1) They are not desperate enough

2) They are not good enough

How does this apply to “finding love”?

1) If you’re desperate, you sent out hundreds of resumes hoping that someone gives a hoot about it. Your resume is what makes the first impression

When it comes to dating, your profiles on social networking sites are your resumes. You probably need to choose your best photos to attract. People won’t even click on you if they aren’t attracted to how you look.

Its like your cover letter. Its the first impression. It has been proven that ladies who show off their cleavage gets more friends and requests. Similarly these ladies won’t take interest in a guy who doesn’t appeal to them.

In a nutshell, be desperate enough to decorate your profile. People judge base on how it is. If you have little photographs like myself, people assume that you’re either ugly or simply a geek who doesn’t go out.

2) Everyone wants a hot girl friend like Megan. If you hear a guy telling you otherwise, he’s trying very hard to make a good impression.

So, how many out there are good enough for Megan? Dating guides talk about looking your best, and being your best self. To be confident and naturally charming. WTF is that?

Some men are born with good looks. These are the assholes who doesn’t need to do a thing for women to flock over. Others have a natural talent to flirt with the opposite sex.

What about you. What do you have?

If you’re rich, use it. If you have a 6 pack ab, show it. lol. I’m kidding.

Basically we all have to think twice about what we want, and be practical with ourselves. The bottom line is this, if you want someone perfect, you’ve to at least be half as good. If you want to work in a reputable firm, you better have alot to offer.

Just like a job interview, you have to sell yourself! Dress smart, no tight or oversized T-shirts. Speak with confidence &  laugh at everything that’s supposed to be funny.

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To sum it up, looking for a partner is  like looking for a job. It doesn’t pay to work hard.

Work smart, and get laid paid.

– Loyalover

Disclaimer:

Above post is an attempt to be funny while relating back to  “New Media Technology” and “Professional Preparation”. I’m not an expert in dating nor do i claim to be.

Cheers~!

Marketer’s Dream

Its amazing how the net these days creates so much marketing opportunities. There is a whole lot of hype about branding yourself and marketing your business with social media.

Today I got to listen to Stephie Tan about her success. Here’s her site http://fashionation.wordpress.com/

Basically she managed to create awareness about herself, her publications and retain interest among a loyal fan base. She was featured in the papers and prominent magazines too.

Its amazing how she started off as a regular blogger who eventually found a way into the crowds and became noticed for her talents.

A little take away from her talk was about following our dreams. About branding ourselves. About making use of technology. About making things possible with the net.

We all have so much potential that has yet been tapped on.

Wisdom of crowds

What is the wisdom of crowd?

Its about the aggregation of information in groups, resulting in decisions that, one argues, are often better than could have been made by any single member of the group.

The basic idea is obvious. That two heads work better than one.  However, it is interesting to note that this is nothing like team work.

One criteria for the wisdom of crowd is with independence.

People’s opinions aren’t determined by the opinions of those around them.

And obviously in usual teams, we discuss, we criticize and eventually come up with a plan.

It is difficult to compare the two. The conclusion I came up with is that each concept is more effective than another during different situations.

Here’s an example:

10 students were asked to predict the number of jelly beans in a jar. Each was to give a number independently and the mean average was revealed.

Compare this to

A team of 10 students who were asked to predict the number of jelly beans in a jar as a group.  The collective opinions would eventually come up to one number.

Which do you think would be more accurate? My fair guess would be that the team of 10 who worked in a group.

The wisdom of crowd works particularly well when the numbers are large. The more opinions you collect, the more accurate the mean would be. That’s also one reason why this theory is often used online for ratings and ranking systems. However, in most situations that do not allow for an easy method to calculate mean, team work would prove to be more appropriate.

Derren Brown & The Wisdom of Crowds

One of the most interesting theories I learnt about from Derren’s performance would be “The Wisdom of Crowds”.

Derren Brown is one of the most amazing magicians I’ve came by who does a mixture of mentalism, psychological suggestions and showmanship in his brilliant shows. He is probably also one of the only magician who successfully used social media to increase his popularity and create awareness.

At the moment, he has one main facebook account. Another one for his parrot, and a twitter account with more than 160, 000 followers. The interesting thing is that he’s only following 10 of these people.

So how does this tie back to the Wisdom of Crowds? Amongst that many amazing feats he does on his show  in the more recent one called “The Events”, he showed “How to predict the lottery tickets”

If you have the time, i urge you to watch the whole show before it is removed.